Absentee Management and Quiet Firing — What’s the Difference? 5 | 3
On this episode of the Radical Candor podcast, Kim, Jason and Amy discuss absentee management and quiet firing. While these two things can feel the...
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Common human decency is something everyone deserves, but not everyone gets. Especially at work. Kim and Amy discuss a case study Kim learned about during a recent visit to Harvard Business School. In this case, the co-founders of CloudFlare considered the implications of five employees' resignations over the prior three months and whether or not the resignations were symptomatic of bigger issues with CloudFlare's culture and management processes. The HBS alums then put on their case study hats as they explore the recent attention CloudFlare has received for its poor handling of layoffs after Brittany Pietsch filmed her own layoff and it subsequently went viral on TikTok.
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We fired ~40 sales people out of over 1,500 in our go to market org. That’s a normal quarter. When we’re doing performance management right, we can often tell within 3 months or less of a sales hire, even during the holidays, whether they’re going to be successful or not. Sadly,…
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Kim Scott argues that the manager has a real relationship with the person being let go, and that relationship matters most in a hard moment. Outsourcing the conversation to HR strips away the human connection and leaves the employee feeling like a number rather than a person. Even if it's harder on the manager, delivering the news directly — with empathy and, where possible, offers to help with references or referrals — is the right thing to do. It's a core expression of common human decency at work.
When Brittany Pietsch recorded her layoff by Cloudflare and it went viral on TikTok in early 2024, it exposed several common failures: HR representatives — not her manager — delivered the news, they couldn't clearly explain why she was being let go, and the messaging conflated performance issues with a layoff. Kim Scott and Amy Sandler use this as a case study in what not to do. The lack of clear communication, manager involvement, and prior feedback left the employee blindsided and the company publicly embarrassed.
When an employee receives a positive review one quarter and is fired the next, it sends a confusing and demoralizing signal to the entire team. Colleagues wonder whether their own reviews are honest or just feel-good exercises. It also creates legal exposure — the fired employee can point to the positive review as evidence of wrongful termination. Kim Scott stresses that identifying and naming performance problems early, setting clear expectations, and giving the person time to improve reduces shock and builds a culture of honest, trustworthy feedback.
Firing with humility means recognizing that the mismatch isn't entirely the employee's fault. As Kim Scott puts it: the reason you're letting someone go isn't that they "suck" — it's that the job you gave them isn't the right fit for them. This reframe helps managers approach the conversation with compassion rather than blame, which is better for the employee's dignity, better for team morale, and better for the manager's own integrity. It's about acknowledging shared accountability rather than dumping all responsibility on the person being let go.
In the CloudFlare HBS case study, the startup's flat structure — combined with no formal HR policies and promotions based solely on individual achievement — created conditions for bullying, burnout, and unfair pay to go unaddressed. Kim Scott warns that even well-intentioned organizations need intentionally designed management processes. Without some structure and hierarchy, toxic behaviors can emerge organically, and there's no system to catch or correct them. A flat structure sounds freeing but can leave employees without protection or recourse.
Kim Scott and Amy Sandler discuss how public leaders face extra scrutiny when things go wrong, and they suggest it's possible to criticize organizational culture and processes without personalizing the blame. The key is to be clear and kind simultaneously — acknowledge what went wrong, explain what should have happened, and commit to doing better. This models Radical Candor for the entire organization: honest about the failure, but not cruel about who caused it. Vague non-apology statements, like Cloudflare's CEO's tweet, miss this mark.
Three ways to put this into practice.
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