On this episode of the Radical Candor podcast, Kim, Amy and Jason discuss sandwiches. These are not the tasty sandwiches beloved by Joey Tribbiani on Friends. While these sandwiches look delicious on the outside, inside they’re stuffed with something you can’t quite identify. But, the sandwich maker hopes the two pieces of artisan bread that hold the mystery meat together will make you accept what’s inside without too many questions. This false promise of emotional novocaine is better known as the feedback sandwich. Here’s why you should avoid the feedback sandwich, which Jason calls “the beautiful lie.”
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@storiesthatshift I love sandwiches, but not the sandwich method for feedback 🥪❌ #feedback #worktok #storiesthatshift #performancereview #fyp #fypシ ♬ original sound – Stories That SHIFT
“Sandwich every bit of criticism between two heavy layers of praise. … A manager should be able to tell someone when something is wrong without bruising an ego in the process. Never giving criticism without praise is a strict rule for me. No matter what you are criticizing, you must find something good to say—both before and after. This is called the sandwich technique.”
Touted as a way for managers who are nervous about giving feedback to soften the blow, or a way to give criticism to sensitive employees. While it was popular in the 1980s and 90s, it’s fallen out of favor in the past 20 years because it’s largely ineffective and people are starting to realize that being “nice” isn’t always kind.
The feedback sandwich technique has a high chance of going sideways if the meat in the middle is crucial for the other person to ingest. Folks who receive the feedback sandwich often discard the meat (the criticism) and instead focus on the two delicious pieces of artisan bread (the praise).
This means that while you did actually deliver the criticism, there’s little chance the other person retained it.
Radical Candor Podcast Checklist to Avoid the Feedback Sandwich
- Instead of serving up a feedback sandwich, wrap your feedback in CORN — Context, Observation, Result, Next Steps. For example, some CORN Criticism I received from my boss: “After the meeting when I told you that you said ‘um’ a lot and recommended a speech coach,” (context), “you made a brush-off gesture” (observation). “This makes me feel like you weren’t hearing me and won’t go to the speech coach I’m recommending, which would be a shame because if you stop saying um so much you’ll be more effective” (result). “Go to the damn speech coach! (nExt stEps)”
- Masking emotion impedes our ability to build real relationships and collaborate effectively with each other. Make sure your feedback is kind and clear, and be present for whatever emotions come up versus trying to gloss over them — in other words, avoid the feedback sandwich.
- The problem with the feedback sandwich is that it’s hard for the person getting the sandwich to parse all of the information and you don’t know how each part of the sandwich lands for that person. The more you layer into the sandwich conversation, the more likely the action the person should take is unclear.
- Another problem with the feedback sandwich is that it’s not messy, and these conversations often feel messy and that’s OK.
Radical Candor Podcast Resources to Avoid the Feedback Sandwich
- How to Juggle Praise and Criticism and Why You Should Avoid the Feedback Sandwich
- Why The Sandwich Approach To Criticism Is Terrible Advice
- Feedback Sandwich: 7 Pros and Cons to Consider
- Why We Need to Kill the Feedback Sandwich | by Russ W | The Startup | Medium
- Exploring the Curious Case of Compliment Sandwiches | by John Hartley | May, 2023
- The “Sandwich Approach” Undermines Your Feedback
- Why Gender Bias Makes Radical Candor Harder For Women
- Opinion | Ambivalent Relationships May Be Hazardous to Your Health – The New York Times
- Just Too Nice
- Get to the CORE/CORN of Giving Radically Candid Feedback
- Thinking, Fast and Slow: Kahneman, Daniel – Books
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The Radical Candor Podcast is based on the book Radical Candor: Be A Kickass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity by Kim Scott.
Episodes are written and produced by Brandi Neal with script editing by Amy Sandler. The show features Radical Candor co-founders Kim Scott and Jason Rosoff and is hosted by Amy Sandler. Nick Carissimi is our audio engineer.
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