Video: Why to Avoid "Don't Take it Personally"

Video: Why to Avoid

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It's hard to take general management and feedback advice and visualize how to apply it in real-life situations. Some Radical Candor readers have mentioned to Kim that it would be helpful to see various feedback and management scenarios acted out. So she and Eleanor Scott did this fun improv role play to help with one of Kim's pieces of advice:

Eliminate the words 'Don't take it personally' from your vocabulary."

 

Here's why it's such a bad idea to say, "Don't take it personally" when someone gets upset after you've given them some critical feedback:
https://youtu.be/FGNPwT5-y6U

 

For more tips, check out Chapter 2 of Radical Candor, and read this highly popular article from last year about giving feedback that's not about personality.

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