How to Avoid Kicking Up When Giving Upward Feedback
You may have heard the phrase “kissing up and kicking down,” which refers to the tendency of some people to try to please and flatter their bosses...
We're starting a Media Fridays series where we'll show videos, songs, TV show clips, etc. that are fun examples of Radical Candor, Obnoxious Aggression, Ruinous Empathy, or Manipulative Insincerity.
First up, The Sound of Music. Maria criticizes her boss, Captain von Trapp, with Direct Challenges (pretty strong ones!), but she also shows over and over that she Cares Personally. Maria doesn't hesitate to "Just say it!"
As often happens, Captain von Trapp doesn't react well to Maria's criticism at first. Radical Candor is hard. It doesn't always get the reception it deserves, especially at first.
If you have a couple of hours this weekend, watch the whole movie to appreciate the positive impact that Maria's criticism eventually has on Captain von Trapp, his relationship with his children, and his relationship with Maria. Spoiler alert: she gets her job back :)
Have you noticed a character being Radically Candid, Obnoxiously Aggressive, Ruinously Empathetic or Manipulatively Insincere? Tell us about it in the comments, or tweet it to us @Candor and we'll check it out for this series!
You may have heard the phrase “kissing up and kicking down,” which refers to the tendency of some people to try to please and flatter their bosses...
One of our podcast listeners, Nadia, wrote in to share this story with us and gave us permission to share with you as well. It’s such a great story...
Have you heard Kim tell the origin story for Radical Candor? When she was living in New York, a complete stranger approached her on the street and...