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Video: From Obnoxious Aggression to Manipulative Insincerity

Most of us don't consider ourselves to be jerks or rude people. So if we discover that we've been Obnoxiously Aggressive, we're chagrined! Unfortunately, the natural tendency then is to back off the Direct Challenge. Obnoxious Aggression turns into Manipulative Insincerity.

In our latest video, Candor Trainer Stephanie Usry tells her stories about following this journey.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yaDhSO2j898

Next time you find yourself being Obnoxiously Aggressive, remember this story. Instead of backing off your Direct Challenge, push yourself higher on the Care Personally axis. This will help you move in the right direction, towards Radical Candor.
We hope that by sharing stories like Stephanie's we can help you feel less alone in these challenges and help you avoid making these same mistakes. We'd love to hear your stories, too! Reach out in the comments below, or send us a note.

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