We often encourage people towards Radical Candor with the phrase “Just say it!” It sounds so easy, so why don’t more people already do it?
Sometimes, the reason is gender. Boys are taught never to hit a girl, and this translates into male bosses tending to withhold criticism or to be overly gentle with women. Women are more likely to be seen as Obnoxiously Aggressive when they are Radically Candid, so they refrain from just saying it in order to not be called a bitch.
Watch this video of Kim discussing gender and Radical Candor (and some ways to overcome the challenges) at Betterworks Goal Summit 2016:
Read more about how gender plays out with Radical Candor.