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Gender & Radical Candor: Why Gender Politics & Fear of Tears Makes Radical Candor Harder for Men

I had such an interesting talk with the folks at First Round Capital about gender bias and Radical Candor. Read the full article, or check out these highlights: I was recently talking to a physics professor whose student didn’t know the quadratic equation. (I don’t remember it from high school algebra either, but I’m not majoring in physics.) Stunned, and wondering how she’d gotten this far with such a gaping hole in her knowledge, he told her she needed to…

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Use Feedback to Break Biases and Think More Clearly

When I was a child, my family used to have dinner every Sunday night with my grandparents. My grandfather said grace: “Lord, make us grateful for these and all our blessings, and keep us ever mindful of the needs of others.” When I turned twelve, I was sometimes asked to say grace, and I invariably got the second part wrong: “keep us ever needful of the minds of others.” Recently, I came to see the wisdom of those mixed up…

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Video: How Does Gender Impact Radical Candor?

We often encourage people towards Radical Candor with the phrase "Just say it!" It sounds so easy, so why don't more people already do it? Sometimes, the reason is gender. Boys are taught never to hit a girl, and this translates into male bosses tending to withhold criticism or to be overly gentle with women. Women are more likely to be seen as Obnoxiously Aggressive when they are Radically Candid, so they refrain from just saying it in order to not be called…

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Why emails with the salutation “Gentlemen” drive me ape shit (admittedly, a disproportionate response)

The other day I asked a guy I work with what his team thought of an idea I had. It turned out that everybody liked my idea, and so X forwarded me the thread to let me know I was free to proceed with it. However, when I got his email I forgot all about the idea because of the first, seemingly innocuous word: On Wed, Apr 13, 2016 at 10:07 AM, X <x@radicalcandor.com> wrote: Gentlemen, Kim has proposed... I…

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